Covert hypnosis is just what it sounds like – the ability to hypnotize without being obvious. There’s nothing subtle about dangling a pocket watch in front of someone’s eyes and murmuring phrases like “you’re getting very sleepy.”
Luckily, you don’t need a pocket watch or fancy catch phrases to put people under a spell. All you need are clever skills of manipulation and covert hypnosis offers you exactly that.
Communicating with another person’s subconscious is not as intimidating as it sounds. It takes place daily, usually through a phenomenon known as ‘conversational hypnosis.’
The intention of covert hypnosis is to change another person’s behavior or thought pattern through specific methods. These methods range from each word spoken to each gesture made.
A covert hypnosis master shows a certain facial expression or makes a specific gesture, all the while understanding that these acts of body language have an ulterior motive – to get the other person thinking their way. The skilled covert hypnosis master will not make their intentions obvious.
If you think this is second-tier pop science, consider this: Covert hypnosis is practiced every day. You have probably practiced it yourself on some level, and you’ve certainly been the unwitting participant on another.
Because of its subtlety, you don’t even realize it. Once you do, however, you can take full control of situations in your life.
A covert hypnosis master could be anyone from the charming man at the dinner table who calms the mood or the car salesman in the used car lot.
Pushing someone to buy a car is one thing. Convincing them to decide for themselves that they need one is another. That’s the difference between simple manipulation and skilled covert hypnosis.
Chances are you already have the skills necessary to practice covert hypnosis; we all do, to some degree. But there are some tricks of the trade to help you develop and hone the ability to use covert hypnosis easily and effectively. Namely, the power of observation, the ability to mirror, and the skill to drop subtle commands:
The power of observation.
To skillfully manipulate others through covert hypnosis, you have to be a master of observation.
You need to build a rapport with the people whose intentions you want to change, and the only way to do that is observe who they are. What are their motivations? What irritates them? What excites them? Once you learn these things, you’re halfway there.
Mirror without mocking.
To make a subconscious connection with someone, they need to feel that you’re on their wavelength. It’s not enough to agree with what they say or throw out compliments – that can come off as pretentious and annoying.
Instead, actually GET on their wavelength by mirroring them. If they speak softly, you speak softly. If they talk with their hands, you talk with your hands. If they lean back in their chair, you lean back in yours.
You can’t make it obvious. After a few minutes, they’ll feel an uncanny connection to you, even though they may not know why.
Commanding without dominance.
When we think of someone commanding another person, we typically visualize them hovering over them, wagging a finger in their face and barking out orders. But commands don’t require dominance.
One of the most fascinating aspects of covert hypnosis is the fact that the subject doesn’t realize it’s happening. This works to your benefit. Why? Because when a person thinks that they’ve made a decision of their own free will, it reduces resistance.
Commanding someone as a covert hypnotist doesn’t involve a long list of orders. It means dropping subtle hints to turn someone your way. Say you’re having a conversation with a potential love interest.
After a while of observing and mirroring, you say something like, ‘Isn’t it great to feel a connection with someone right off the bat? I just love to feel comfortable when I meet someone new.’
Doesn’t sound like much of a command, does it? But what you’re actually saying is: ‘Feel a connection. Feel comfortable.’
The benefits of sharpening your subtle skills of manipulation are endless. Sit down and think about how your life could change if you could control the intentions and motivations of others.